"CAN I HAVE THAT PLEASE?".....(DONT BE AFRAID TO ASK!!)

Well Hello again Blogheads, is it just me or does the week seem to literally fly past these days. I feel like I only just wrote my last blog yesterday lol! Anyway how is everyone doing? Good I hope, not that any of you would tell me!! Week after week now I just spill my guts and open up to you all getting all vulnerable.com and what do I get back? SILENCE!!!! I started this blog because I have a lot of things on my mind and sometimes writing it down helps me make sense of it all or at least gain some perspective. Everything I write is purely opinion based, derived from experience and wrapped up in a riddle most of the time. I decided to share my thoughts and theories with you guys because one day when I was reading some of my old journals from years and years and literally years back I realised how much my thought process had changed over the years. You know how sometimes you don’t notice how much your child has grown because you see them every day so the gradual changes aren’t so apparent but then when someone else comes around they notice the difference straight away. Well that’s pretty much how I felt when I looked back over them. I have changed so much from 17-21 years old and from 21-25 but MOST significantly from 25-29 and I would advise any of you out there who have never kept a journal to go and purchase a pen and pad right now because I assure you that in 5 years’ time when you decide to dust them off and see where your head was at they will read better than your favourite soap. From the absolutely hilarious ideas and opinions that we believe to be fact, to the drama filled, hormone fuelled friendship battles of ‘he said she said’ and ‘I like, she likes and I don’t even know who you like?’ To the cringe worthy crushes that go disastrously wrong (due to our good old friend ‘Mr or Mrs unrequited’ making their debut appearance in the daily ‘it’s all about me’ show.) Trust me it’s worth it. Alas I digress, my point was that what I write is just food for thought and I share it to inspire questions and debates either with yourself or with others but mostly with ME !! so talk to me people I would greatly appreciate hearing your thoughts or feelings about whether you agree or disagree. I love alternate viewpoints as I love to learn so feel free to educate me #SharingIsCaringYouKnow, jheeze!! That said I am setting up a Facebook Page for MZ M@NNI IN THE MORNING BLOGS so I shall post all the blogs on it and you can feel free to comment and share your own words of wisdom or insightful nuggets of gold on there. Secondly even though there wasn’t a firstly lol I would like to THANK ALL THE READERS/SUPPORTERS of my blog so far, I have received some really good feedback and its inspired me to continue writing. I have also added a translate button on my blog for those of you reading in Russia, Japan, Netherlands, France, Germany, Mauritius and India etc. thank you so much for taking an interest, I hope you enjoy todays Blog 

 

 

So this morning I woke up had my tea, prayed, meditated and set my mind as per usual and as I was playing with my prince he took the lid off my VERY INKY writing pen and between the split second it took for him to look at me with the most mischievous expression and the time taken for my voice to raise at least ten decibels the tip of the pen was firmly pressed against ………………………………………………………….my pukka pad (phew) thank goodness for that, I wouldn’t have been  so scared had we not have been in my sister’s house at the time :-/. (Syl if you’re reading this you can breathe now he didn’t get to your table lol) Anyway as I swiftly grabbed the pen from his tight grasp he then preceded to make a dash for it around the table. After our little game of cat and mouse which ended swiftly might I add (because I go gym now and I’m quicker than him hahaha) he refused point blank to give me the lid back and engaged in a very vocal screaming match. At which point I looked at him very calmly and said ‘son please!! I’m a vocalist do you really wanna go there with me, like my lungs aren’t bigger and my voice isn’t louder’ (kids) so I went head to head with him like  ‘come on then if you’re bad??’ but truth be told I think I underestimated the mere fact that he is actually MY son and clearly the competitive Sempa Gene did not skip a generation. Clearly after a good one and a half minutes of high pitched screaming (which seemed like forever) I conceded as I didn’t want to wake up my mum (who was coincidently still sleeping oops). At which point my smug little monkey squinted his eyes at me like ‘ha I WIN’ which was when I heard a quiet whisper in my ear saying ‘why not just ask him for the lid instead of trying to take it from him forcefully???’ (Hmmm the African in me was like WHAT?? Now why would I do that? he’s a child he needs to know who’s in control) but I gave it a try none the less and I swear no word of lie he put the lid in my hand with no resistance at all and ran off smiling as if to say ‘you see mummy that’s all you needed to do’…………………………..and that was it ‘my moment of insight’. I stood there dumbfounded thinking wow!! How easy was that and it got me thinking do I do that often without realising? I mean all my life I’ve been the type of person who goes against the grain and I suppose growing up around people who never understood how I think I always had to fight my own corner. So maybe being forthright became ingrained in my personality or something. I can see how sometimes, ok! maybe most of the time my actions can be misunderstood and people may confuse my confidence for arrogance and perceive my actions as aggressive but that’s because I know what I want and I go and get it instead of sitting there wishing for it (so to those people who think that, I say you’re all wishbone and no backbone)  because the truth is I just know who I am and what I want and I won’t nor would I want to apologise for that but today did get me wondering if I tried applying that approach in my own life a bit more whether it would yield better results? Let’s be real life isn’t actually complicated WE complicate it, just like a gun isn’t dangerous the person holding it is. Somewhere along the line we got taught that we CANT have what we want and that in order to get it you either have to take it by force or manipulate the situation. WELL today my son reminded me that actually sometimes neither is necessary just by simply expressing what you want and by being open and honest you can get you exactly what you want. How many of you are actually scared to say what you want out loud?? Ask yourself why?? What is the worst thing that can happen??? You don’t get it…well at the point of asking for what you want you didn’t have it anyway so you’re no worse off are you….however by being real and voicing your desires the best thing that could happen is you receive them. You don’t have to be a genius to work out that they are pretty good odds right? So my advice for this week is to just try being open and asking for exactly what you want #NoRegrets. They say the best form of defence is attack right so instead of wasting all of your energy (running round tables, playing cat and mouse with your desires) chasing what you want, STOP!! Stand still and just say ‘CAN I HAVE THAT PLEASE?’ (remember that your manners are free though lol) and just know that if the answer wasn’t what you wanted it to be, it’s probably because sometimes what you want isn’t always what you need but don’t be forceful…love is NEVER forceful it flows freely and when you’re operating on the same frequency you’ll realise that what you get in the end is always better.

#NoFearJustFaith

Till next Wednesday Mwah

#ALWAYS LOVE <3