Hey, how you guys doing? Have you missed me?? because I have
certainly missed you. As always life got in the way this week and I have been
really hectic with Uni, motherly duties and working on my book. However it
hasn’t been all work ;-) like they say you work hard and you get to play even harder
lol….ok maybe that’s not quite how the saying goes but that’s my take on it J
In between trying to meet deadlines, help my princess
rehearse for Christmas productions both at school and in church, my little man’s
2nd birthday and preparing
for Christmas itself…it’s safe to say I’ve had my hands a little more than
full. However with all the balls in the air right now it seemed the perfect
time to write a blog about dealing with pressure. We all experience it at some
point or other but how do you deal with it? When everything’s falling down on
top of you, or as in my case everything is up in the air it’s almost as though
you’re running on a conveyor belt and getting nowhere quick regardless of how
fast you appear to be moving or how much effort you’re exerting…. #TreadmillThinking.
It’s funny but when we are in the best years of our lives
i.e. young free and with no responsibilities we rush through them wishing them
away, so that we can have the freedom of adulthood and then when we reach those
years we spend them looking back wishing we were young again??? For me when it
all gets to be too much I used to just switch off and use the straw that breaks
the camel’s back to flick my off switch instead, causing my brain to short
circuit. That is of course before I became a mother for the second time and
realised that if I was to continue with this method I would spend more time in
a coma induced state than out of one.
Trying to balance life in general is never easy but when you
are left with no other choice, you learn quick to either adapt or quit and as
someone once said to me ‘this is real
life Nia……it’s YOUR LIFE and you can’t just check out.’ So now instead of
wanting to quit, I get out my pen and pad and start writing LISTS. I know I
know it sounds so tedious and time consuming and we all think surely that’s just
adding one more thing to the already never ending list of things to do? And if
you can barely find time in your busy schedule to factor in a toilet break or
sleep even, then how the heck, are you going to make time to write a list. Well
my friends;
“Those who want answers ask questions and those who want
progress, don’t make excuses they make lists.” (Nia-Jai 2012)
Seriously, just think of maybe 5 of the people in the world
that you wouldn’t mind having even a quarter of their success and guaranteed
there is a series of habits that they ALL practice and attribute to it……. And yes
making LISTS is top of the list looool.
Don’t get me wrong day to day stuff may not require the use
of a list, but as you get older and your responsibilities no longer start and
stop with YOURSELF, the art of balance can
become quite the circus act indeed and believe me this is when you need to
reach for the pen ;-).
Seriously I only survived the last two weeks because I put
what was in my head on paper and then prioritised what was most important and
actually what I thought would be time consuming turned out to be more
economically viable. The best thing is if you have a pen and pad by your
bedside table then you can literally write your list for the day before your
feet even touch the ground in the morning and then 5 minutes before you go to
bed you can tick off all that you achieved ( and silently hi5 yourself) and you
can add anything pending to tomorrows list and before you know it you’re no longer panicking over what needs to
be done and what hasn’t been done but you have gained the quiet satisfaction of
knowing this is what HAS been done and this is what WILL be done and everything
is under control.
Just like cholesterol eventually clogs up the arteries
causing an increase in pressure and eventually a heart attack, it’s the same in
life…..if we let ourselves get too clogged up with what is or isn’t going in
our lives before we know it, either our love lives or our everyday lives find
themselves under ‘Cardiac Arrest’. Like a pipe carrying water, as long as it’s
free flowing then there is no problem but the moment the pipe is RESTRICTED, the
pressure will increase until eventually the pipe explodes.
Surely we’ve all at some point or other had #ThatMomentWhen
we’re about to burst if something doesn’t give? We all have obligations its
apart of life but that doesn’t mean that they are ALL of equal importance.
Prioritise what or where you’re needed most. Whether it’s family, work,
friends, self or others...…you need to work out what is most important to you. What
you want in life comes at a price; you can’t be EVERYTHING to EVERYONE.
For instance at this very moment in time I’m typing with one
hand with my son in my other hand trying to put him to sleep so I can finish
this blog in the window of allocated time before I have to then do the school
run again. I do it because I love it not because I have to and that makes all
the difference. I’d rather be broke doing what I love than rich and hate my job
but that’s because I believe that if you invest time in doing what you love
sooner or later people will love what you do!!
#MemoOfTheDay : Where ever there is restriction in your life
it will cause pressure…..2 much pressure and that pipes going to burst….Breathe,
make a list and know that something ALWAYS has to give.
Hope this gift helps anyone feeling stuck, stifled or
pressured,
#ALWAYSLOVE <3
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